Decision Making Dilemma


fearWho is better at making decisions, me or God? The battle is ongoing, I take a little from the worldly advice, and try to balance it with my faith-based advice. I say, “Jesus take the wheel,” but insert many BUTs or recommendations along the way when I’m called to surrender and accept.

God willing, in 45 days I will be a Mrs. As we start the next chapter in our lives we have a few big decisions to make, some of these are permanent LIFE changing decisions.

Sometimes I overwhelmed as I weigh out our options. I make a list of the pros and cons, bouncing around with the options. At one moment I’m confident option A is what my heart really wants, but days later not quite so.

People who love and care about us give us their two cents. I listen, take mental notes, and keep their points stored for future internal debate. I use their advice to counter the decision I make and try to convince myself that they see something that my trusting God misses. Everyone means well, but today while on break, looking out at the ocean, I remembered how Orly and I started in the first place.

We prayed on it. We took it slow. We didn’t rush into our relationship – we were cautious about making a transition out of the friend zone because we treasured our bond. We were scared, we didn’t want to damage the beauty of our friendship. We faced this fear. We trusted God. God was always consulted and at the center of every move we made. Quite honestly, if we didn’t have God in our lives before we met we probably wouldn’t have dated!!! Yet, it’s the BEST decision (and risk) we ever made. Now many who were originally doubtful have come to understand why we took this leap of faith.

How then can I consider making a HUGE decision without consulting God FIRST (I didn’t say WE because Orly really is more trusting on this topic, He’s put His hands up to God. However, the accountant/business woman in me is trying to map out our future – silly me, I know!)? I have to allow GOD to make the decision, I cannot play God.

Identifying my two sources of advice (the world vs God) helped me understand why I was so torn; I’m trying to live the life I thought would please God while trying to live the life society expects me to.


dont-panicGod has a plan for my life. He has a plan for the life Orly and I are creating together. He has a plan for our children. I have the freedom to open my heart to God and allow Him to steer me in the right direction by making decisions that align with the Word of God.

The world doesn’t always understand the way we choose to live; we abstain from certain things, observe special days, avoid certain scenes, and the list goes on because our hearts feel it’s the right thing to do in honor and respect for God.

While I’m here, tossing and turning, trying to “decide” what the correct next step is, I have to remind myself what I’m here for.

My life – my mission – is to live the life God intended for me as best I can. My goal is to please Him with the way I live my life. God’s approval and happiness is my #1 goal. It may not look “pretty” or “fun” all the time to outsiders, but all that matters is that my heart intends to do good and honors God with my words and deeds.

This decision-making dilemma has eaten at me for almost a year now, but it’s time to consider who my loyalty belongs to.

Will I make a decision because it’s what those around me think I should do or do I make a decision trusting that God will steer me in the right direction?

For a long time I prayed, I waited, and by the grace of God I received an amazing man. Will I not trust God with this as well?

I need to surrender to God, no matter how confused I might about what is to come, He has every right to make this decision – not me. The church has a clear, black & white response to this question. There is nothing to debate or consider.

The world tells me to have fun, enjoy life, but God says – choose right.

I can’t pick and choose when it’s convenient for God to step in, this is a daily lifelong walk. It’s liberating, but it’s also scary because this isn’t an easy decision to make. Although a tremendous blessing, society has me believing that saying yes to what many would consider a blessing could end up being our unraveling.

Jesus – I trust in you!


For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith Jehovah, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you [a]hope in your latter end. 12 And ye shall call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. 13 And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:11-13


Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding.
 Proverbs 3:5

35 For I came to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law: 36 and a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. 37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Matthew 10:35-37








via Daily Prompt: Dilemma

11 thoughts on “Decision Making Dilemma

  1. Wishing you all the best! The song Jesus Take the Wheel is the perfect example of how we often operate when it comes to faith. We like to drive along being in charge of our life, until things get desperate. Then we say, “Jesus take the wheel!”

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    1. Amen! 🙂 I agree, usually it’s when we have an emergency that we scream out “take the wheel.” Otherwise, we are busy mapping out our future while He’s up there laughing 🙂

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  2. I very much enjoy reading your essays. I can relate in many ways to what you share. I know through our past lives hurts and pain we sometimes struggle more for control, a guarantee. I very recently chose to totally surrender to what I know to be Gods will. I don’t know the outcome but I know the struggle in trying to avoid where He led was making my life miserable. I have found peace in surrender – having no idea what the outcome will be. You are so very blessed in your relationship, trust God, turn to each other. What a gift He has given each of you – the other ♥

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    1. Thank you for your comment 🙂

      “I have found peace in surrender – having no idea what the outcome will be. ” – That’s the beautiful thing about our faith, we trust in His plan & allow Him to light the way… I’ve found the biggest blessings & the most peace when following His way instead of “my way.” He always intends best for us…we sometimes choose what’s easy & most convenient… Best wishes!



  3. You seem like a lovely person, thoughtful, empathetic and good. This is an exciting time in your life with big decisions! You’ve found your soul mate, have a wonderful family and the love of god and all reciprocated – lucky you 🙂 What if there is a third option? What if god has trust in YOU to make the right decisions? Being true to yourself, not bowing to what society wants – follow your path. Maybe your path was bumpy in the past, but right now you’re on the right course. If you are good person and true to yourself, god will love you for the decision you make. I say this from the angle of not quite knowing if god is there or not. That probably sounds terrible to those who have faith (sorry). But I’m always true to myself, try to be the best person I can be and when I’m unsure of what to do, I have faith in life and the plan god has for me (if he’s there).

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    1. Thank you for your kinds words 🙂
      I agree with you – there needs to be a balance where I pray asking for help discerning what the correct decisions might be, BUT there’s also the part where I use my will – my own heart – to make things happen and not wait for God to make it happen. Don’t worry, not believing in God doesn’t sound terrible, He gave us free will after all. So it’s a matter of choosing what we want to believe in and what path to follow. So no worries 🙂

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      1. I’m glad I didn’t offend you, and I agree with everything you say. I don’t not believe, the door is open there. I just find it all confusing 🙂 Going back to you mentioning Rome, it’s probably the closest I’ve felt to believing for a number or reasons. You’ll love it there.

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  4. Sorry, I’m worried now I might offend your religious beliefs but I can’t delete the message :-/ In a way, I contradicted myself at the end anyway because after I said all I did, I said I have faith in the plan of god (if he exists).

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    1. Hi – no worries 🙂 It’s ok. God doesn’t impose Himself on anyone, and I won’t impose my faith on anyone either. You didn’t say anything insulting – thank you for being conscientious and kind. 🙂

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